Choosing “The One” is not easy, so one has to be extra cautious and mindful when going through the choosing process. There are however some signs he is the one you can look out for, which we’ll be going into today.
A life partner is exactly what it sounds like, a partner that will be with you for life. Therefore, you don’t want to make mistakes in choosing the man you would be spending the rest of your life with. This is why you have to look out for clear signs to help you determine if he is the one for you or not.
You also need to know that, because you are dating a person now doesn’t mean that both of you will end up together in marriage. This is why you need to check if he is showing the right signs he is the one as soon as possible so that you don’t end up wasting each other’s time being in a relationship that won’t work out in the end.
Sometimes you may even have doubts about what the future really holds for your relationship, but it is always safe to look out for clues that would help you decide if to continue with the relationship or not.
Before you decide to walk down the aisle, below are ten signs he is the one and you’ve found your life partner! And also, if you’re wondering about marriage, also check out this post on signs he wants to marry you someday.
1. You are comfortable around each other
Being comfortable around your man and vice versa is a big deal because you should be able to be your real self when you are with him (yep, even removing your wig when you’re together). He should be able to see your straight-out-of-bed face and still think you are beautiful. You shouldn’t have to pretend to be who you aren’t, just because you want to please him.
Although change is constant, you don’t have to fake anything about yourself to please him. You should be able to share jokes freely, talk about the silliest things, and laugh together without feeling awkward.
He doesn’t just take you or see you as his girlfriend; he treats you like his best friend. You can cry in front of each other, you celebrate your achievements and cheer each other up when things do not go right.
You understand each other, and he tells you that he is always himself around you, which you must have noticed, too. If this is the case, then he might just be the one for you.
If you are not comfortable around each other, then there is a high possibility that things won’t work out well in the long run.
2. He loves to spend time with you
When a man deems you important, he will always find a way to spend time with you no matter how busy he gets. Both of you are able to talk about everything and anything without getting tired of having to force the conversation.
Does he call or text you randomly during the day to see how you are doing? Or does he send you nice gifts out of the blues? Does he take you out to celebrate special occasions with you? Does he show you how much he loves and cares about you always?
If he does all these, then he is showing major signs he is the one.
3. He supports you
Having a man who supports you is very important, and if you find one, then he is a keeper. He doesn’t stop you from achieving your dream, he doesn’t say they are too high or tries to belittle them, but instead, he offers all his support in every way possible to see that they come into fruition.
Also, he continually motivates you when you are feeling down, he goes out of his way to get things done for you, and he doesn’t complain about it.
He is optimistic about things and brings out the good in every situation. And he understands that sometimes you may have to work late to meet your deadlines; other times, he may have to handle the meals, and even at that, he doesn’t cease to cheer you on.
You should run away from any man who expects you to give up all you do or all your dreams to be with him. Literally. Pick up your shoes and run as fast as you can.
Is he there for you in difficult situations? Does he look out for you or only thinks about himself?
If he ticks all the right boxes, then that is one of the most important signs he is the one.
4. He is always open and honest with you
Honesty is an important part of every relationship. You should be able to discuss how you feel with your partner and tell each other what is going on with you without hesitation. When there is a misunderstanding which is a part of every relationship, both of you can sit down to talk about it like adults and come to a peaceful resolution.
He doesn’t claim to be who he is not or lie that he has what he doesn’t. He doesn’t pretend to be interested in your hobbies even when he doesn’t like them.
Both of you are able to share your weird and deep thoughts without it feeling weird. If he keeps things a hundred percent real with you and doesn’t fake anything, that’s a sign he is the one.
5. He respects you
Mutual Respect must be a part of every relationship that will last long. Love goes hand in hand with Respect in a relationship. A man who respects you will never lay his hands on you. He would also be careful with the kind of words he uses on you even when he is upset.
He respects your privacy. And he understands that you both had personal lives before you became a couple, and you still have to keep up with it. He gives you room to do your things and live your life, but he is still an active part of your life.
He asks for your opinions on things and respects it. These are all green lights you shouldn’t ignore.
6. You trust each other
Do you both trust each other? Trust is an essential part of every relationship, and it must always be present for your relationship to work out well. He must be someone who understands that you have male friends, colleagues, and acquaintances, without getting jealous or always being suspicious of your relationship with the opposite sex.
He also doesn’t get jealous when he sees you with your exes, and he is mature enough to trust you with them. And he doesn’t always have to question your every move and actions. If these signs are evident in him, then he is a keeper.
7. He sees a future with you and acts like it
When a man always tells you about his plans and includes you in them, then that’s a good sign that he may be the one. He is not the kind of guy who always avoids conversations about the future each time it comes up. Instead, he shows you and tells you that he wants you to be in his life forever.
He tells you about where he sees himself in the next five years, and he includes you in the picture. Or he tells you the kind of life he would want his wife and kids to have. He is very straight forward with you about everything and is not trying to play games.
In fact, he says good things about you to his family and friends. You may not be there when he does it, but a family or friend may have mentioned it to you.
8. He doesn’t judge you
Everyone makes mistakes, but it takes someone who really loves you to look past it and not judge you by the mistakes you made in the past. If you are scared to share your past mistakes with him because he might judge you, or leave you, then you are not ready to get married to him.
A man who really loves you would know that your past is your past, and you are a different person now. If he is not constantly judging your way of life or trying to turn you into who you are not, then, he may be the one for you.
9. His attraction to you is beyond your physical looks and sex
It is important for your partner to be physically and sexually attracted to you, but that should never be the only basis for your relationship.
He probably got attracted to you the first time because of how you look, talk or dress, and that is fine. But along the line when you are both getting to know each other, there should be other things that he likes about you and gets attracted to beyond your physical looks.
You should be assured that even if you don’t have the physical beauty as much as you used to, he would still want to be with you.
It is okay to have great sex; in fact, both of you should be sexually compatible if you are going to spend your life together. But you also need to be assured that he isn’t just with you because of the great sex.
Does he enjoy your companionship, or is it just about the sex? Look out for these signs, and if you see that he fits in right, then there is a big possibility that he is the one for you.
10. You like each other’s family
Directly or indirectly, our family affects our relationships and love life. This is why we have to put them into consideration, especially when making the decision about your life partner.
Does his family like you, and do you get along with them well? Does he like your family, and does he get along with them well?
You may want to ignore the red flags about his family now because you are in love with him, but it might end up being a problem in the future if the both of you eventually get married.
There is an old saying that, “You marry an entire family,” and it’s true.
Try your best to get along with his family members as much as you can, but if it isn’t working, then you might have to rethink the relationship because you don’t want to spend the rest of your life having a mother-in-law, sisters-in-law, father-in-law or brothers-in-law who dislike you.
Also, he genuinely wants to get to know your family, and he respects them. He doesn’t make you choose between him and them, and your family also likes him in return.
If he and his family fit into the right category here, then that’s a sign you’ve found your life partner.
On a final note, when looking for signs he is the one; you must be honest with yourself about it. Don’t try to make excuses for him if he is not meeting up to what he should be doing. Rather, talk to him about it.
Make sure that both of you are compatible, and he is someone you also envision yourself with for the rest of your life. Both of you must be able to connect not just on a physical level but on a deeper level.
You should understand each other and be free to talk about things with each other. You should always feel happy and safe when you are with him and not have a reason to doubt his words. Furthermore, he should be a man who shows that he would stand by you regardless of what happens and not go running for the hills, the moment a problem occurs.
It is best if you were all the aforementioned things to him too. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and you have to be sure that you are making the right decision before going into it.
It’s okay to dream about how beautiful the wedding day will go, but remember that the wedding is just for one day. The man whom you are marrying is the one you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, so choose wisely.
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