“Does he want to marry me?” The question is bound to pop up in your mind from time to time, especially when you have been in a relationship with your boyfriend for a while. It is perfectly normal to look out for signs he wants to marry you when the relationship is getting very serious.
This is also quite necessary so that you figure out as soon as possible if your boyfriend sees a future with you or not so that you wouldn’t just be wasting your time with him.
However, the quickest way to find out if a guy wants to marry you is to ask him (yeah I know, where’s the fun in that?). Well, the truth is, as two adults in a relationship, it is expected that both of you should be open and honest with each other about what you want.
But if you do not want to take this direct approach (phew!), then you have to look out for clues that would give you the answer you are seeking.
In trying to know if a man wants to spend the rest of his life with you, there are certain signs you have to look out for, especially if you both are financially secure and have a stable career in place.
Below are 10 unmistakable signs he wants to marry you someday:
1. He openly talks about the future with you
When a man doesn’t hesitate to talk about his future with you, there is a very high possibility that he sees you in that future with him. Telling you about his plans and how he hopes to achieve them shows that he is concerned about making long-term plans with you.
Make sure to pay attention when he brings up such conversations and not avoid them so that he won’t think you aren’t interested in having a future with him.
Also, when a guy constantly avoids talking about the future with you or ignores you when you mention such, it may mean that he doesn’t plan to be with you in the long term.
Talking about the future doesn’t necessarily mean talking about weddings, kids, or the likes. It could be as little as planning future trips you would like to go on together.
2. He considers you in his decision making
When a man considers you before making decisions, it means he is concerned about “we”, that is, the both of you. Not just concerned about himself.
He isn’t just self-focused, he regards you as an important plan of his life. Therefore, his decisions should favor both of you.
For example, when he is planning to move into a new house, he asks your opinion on the house, the decorations, etc. Or if he wants to make a career change, he discusses it with you.
The whole concept of marriage is “two people coming together as one” and if he is already showing signs that both of you are a unit, then that is a plus for you.
At this point, he also asks about your opinions on whatever decision he is taking and he equally respects your opinions.
If he doesn’t seek your opinion on important matters and just takes decisions without putting you into consideration, then it means that he still thinks only of himself and he isn’t seeing you in his future.
3. He has introduced you to his family and friends
One of the clear signs he wants to marry you is when he starts introducing you to his family and friends. This could also mean that you attend his family occasions with him.
This may not particularly be a certainty, but it is a big step. If you have been in a relationship for a while and you don’t know any of your partner’s family or friends, then you need to start rethinking some things.
Introducing you to the important people in his life means that he also deems you as important to him and he wants people to know that he has a woman in his life.
4. He talks about having a family and kids someday
If, after being in a relationship for a long time, your man has never mentioned having a family someday or having kids, then you need to discuss it with him.
A man who intends to have a family will have mentioned it in one of his conversations with you. The best part is when he isn’t skeptical about discussing such issues with you. Men know that when they discuss such things with a woman, it subconsciously registers in her mind and she begins to fit herself into the picture.
If he has also mentioned how he wants the home he would live in with his family to look or the number of kids he wants to have, then that is a pretty good sign, girl.
5. He is there for you in trying times
There is nothing as reassuring as having the person you love by your side when you are going through a hard time. When a man doesn’t hesitate to offer his love, care, and support even when things are not going well with you, it is a pretty good indication that he is serious about you.
It shows that if you both end up together in the future, you can always count on him. Plus, going through hard times together helps both of you have a greater connection which makes your relationship even stronger.
A man who sees a future with you and wants to be in your life for a long time should be a shoulder you can cry on. You should be able to share your fears and worries with him without hesitation or fear that he may leave you.
6. He talked about moving in together or you are already living together
This is a relative sign because some cultures or religions do not support couples living together until they are married. However, if your partner has mentioned moving in together with you, then it means that he is showing signs he wants to marry you.
Living together with your partner is almost the same as being married to him because both of you will get to know each other better.
It also means that he takes your relationship pretty seriously and you are someone he would consider settling down with.
Nonetheless, you need to figure out the major reason why your partner wants the both of you to move in together before making any conclusions. Because if the major reason why he proposed moving in together is so that you can split the bills, then you cannot be so sure that it is a sign he wants to settle down with you.
Also if you have been living together for a long while and you can see that he is financially capable to start a family but he is still not showing signs of wanting to get married, then you may need to be careful about getting your hopes too high.
But if he proposed moving in together because he wants to spend more time with you and to know you more, then, yay!
7. You both already act like a family
When you are living together, attending family occasions together, making decisions together, and practically seeing each other every day, then it means you are already acting like a family. This is a good sign that you are the one he would consider settling down with you sooner or later.
He may even have jokingly mentioned getting married to you and told you that you would be his forever.
He probably also acts like he is your husband already and gets jealous when he sees you talking to other men.
8. He is consistent and an active part of your life
If a man truly cares about you and sees a future with you, he would be a consistent and active part of your life. There is more to a relationship than love. You need to be sure that the man you are with is consistent in the way he acts towards you.
Does he maintain consistent communication with you, or he goes on and off as he pleases?
Does he exhibit the same behavior or is he like a chameleon that changes color?
When a man is consistent in his actions, it means that you can trust him and depend on him.
If he constantly checks up on you to know how you are doing, shows you romantic gestures, makes you a priority in his life, flaunts you to his family and friends, and keeps his promises, then it seems to me that your man is in it for the long run.
A man who intends to settle down with you will be an active part of your life. He will be concerned about everything that goes on with you and around you. He will ask you genuine questions and always find a way to be of help to you.
9. He is making plans towards it
This may not be a very obvious sign except if you take extra note of it, but there are certain steps your man would begin to take which will give you a clue that he will pop ‘the question’ sooner or later.
Some examples of these signs are: Moving into a bigger house and having you decorate it to your taste, trying to know your ring size or getting an engagement ring for you, etc.
For him to take these steps, it means he sees a future with you.
10. He doesn’t mind sharing his things with you
If your man doesn’t mind sharing his things with you, then that could be one of the signs he wants to marry you. For instance, if he allows you to drive his car or borrow his stuff to use, then it means that he considers you an important part of his life.
So how long does it take?
In conclusion, if you are not seeing any of these signs in your partner yet and you are beginning to get worried and worked up, you may begin to ask yourself,
“How long does it take for a man to know that he wants to marry you?”
The answer to that question is that there is no fixed time that a man takes to figure out if he wants to spend the rest of his life with a particular person. Every man takes a different time frame to figure that out.
The best thing to do at this point would be to have an honest conversation with your boyfriend, let him know your fears and worries so that both of you can decide the way forward.
It could be that the reason why he hasn’t shown any interest in marriage is that he is not financially capable or he is probably waiting for the right time. But whatever the reason, perhaps if the both of you do not talk about it, there is no way you can figure it out on your own.
When you eventually talk to him and you realize from your conversation that he doesn’t want to get married to you or he doesn’t want to get married at all, then you have two choices:
Either you accept the fact that he doesn’t want to settle down and still stay with him regardless. Or you accept the fact and break up with him. Making this decision as soon as you find out the truth is very important. Although it may be hard, it helps to give you a direction in life.
Final thoughts
Getting married may mean the world to you or it could mean just a mere piece of paper to you. Whichever way you feel about it, what matters the most is that you make decisions based on your true needs and your values.
In the end, it is important you don’t quickly jump into any conclusions or over-analyse the situation. It is okay to discuss the marriage topic with him but don’t force him into doing what he doesn’t want to do.
If it is meant to be, it will be.
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